Expert tells parents to ask baby’s consent when changing diapers

An Australian “sexuality educator,” Deanne Carson, sparked online backlash after suggesting parents ask babies for permission before changing their diapers. She argues that a “culture of consent” should begin at birth—not by expecting a verbal response, but by narrating actions, pausing, and reading a baby’s body language to show respect for their autonomy.

Carson says the practice is about building trust and communication, helping children learn early that their responses matter. She emphasizes it’s symbolic rather than literal consent.

Critics, however, called the idea impractical and extreme, arguing that infants are too young to understand consent and that diaper changes are a basic necessity. Psychologists, commentators, and many social media users mocked the suggestion, while others defended Carson’s intentions, saying respectful communication with babies causes no harm.

While opinions remain divided, many agree that being attentive and responsive to a baby’s cues is valuable—even if not everyone supports framing it as consent.